Website resource: The Center for Loss

The Journey Through Grief:
The Mourner’s Six “Reconciliation Needs”
by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D.

The death of someone loved changes our lives forever. And the movement from the “before” to the “after” is almost always a long, painful journey. From my own experiences with loss as well as those of the thousands of grieving people I have worked with over the years, I have learned that if we are to heal we cannot skirt the outside edges of our grief. Instead, we must journey all through it, sometimes meandering the side roads, sometimes plowing directly into its raw center.
I have also learned that the journey requires mourning. There is an important difference, you see. Grief is what you think and feel on the inside after someone you love dies. Mourning is the outward expression of those thoughts and feelings. To mourn is to be an active participant in our grief journeys. We all grieve when someone we love dies, but if we are to heal, we must also mourn.
There are six “yield signs” you are likely to encounter on your journey through grief—what I call the “reconciliation needs of mourning.” For while your grief journey will be an intensely personal, unique experience, all mourners must yield to this set of basic human needs if they are to heal.

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3 responses to “Website resource: The Center for Loss

  1. I just came across your blog and I’ve added it to the website that I’ve been curating in memory of my 23 year old son who was killed 14 months ago.
    I’m so sorry for your loss of Malcolm.

    • I took a brief look at your web-site. So much sadness. Just know that the pain gets easier to live with and breathe through as the years move on.

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